Proverbs 3:5 “Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.’
We can avoid the heartache of losing a pet by just not having a pet. We can avoid the heartache of losing a family member or acquaintance by simply never loving the person. But loving someone, like a mother, and being rejected by her brings heartache that is usually dealt with by developing an ” I don’t-care.” attitude.
Love isn’t just a feel-good emotion, the feelings of well-wishing for the other person, the desire to see that person happy and content, without problems or pain, is reflected back to us from God; and we inherit the good intent that we have for that loved one. Avoiding love is the passive form of the “I don’t care” attitude, and it deprives the person of the positive in their lives. The rejected form of the “I don’t care” attitude not only deprives the person of the positive in their lives, but elicits negative intent of rejection of love, anger, hate, bitterness – all of which is returned to the person. In other words: Avoidance of love loses positive input into their lives and they suffer because of it, but rejection brings negative input into a person’s life and it can destroy them.
Why do so many from low-income families become anti-social and even criminal?
The person who is rejected by their parent, who doesn’t want the responsibility of children, but seeks after the non-emotional highs of promiscuous sex, drugs, food, and partying, ultimately become just like their parent with their “I don’t care” attitude.
This leads to young women having children that they, also, reject, continuing the destructive cycle. The male, filled with the same rejection, anger and bitterness, becomes the predator, not interested in the pain of others, but only in their own enjoyment or self-satisfaction,
This cycle of destruction is self-perpetuating adding a greater number of destroyed people each year. We can break this cycle through legislation, which would diminish the problem, but not completely solve it. I have seen people who have found the solution. They have come to the realization that their happiness does not necessarily come from people, but is the product of God’s love for them. Once they realize that God has always loved them, and will always love them, they realize that they are not alone. They are not rejected, but have been pursued by God all their lives. When they realize these things, they are able to love again, they are able to forgive, and they are able to go on with their lives. They realize that God is the solution to all their problems.
Each one of us has suffered loss or rejection. Everyone of us has felt an emptiness within us. that emptiness is reserved for God. Only He can fill us with enough love to love and forgive those who have hurt us, and enough love for us to find contentment and completion is our lives.
Jesus said, “Seek first the Kingdom of Heaven, and all these things shall be added unto you.”
The answer to any problem begins with God. He is our Father who will always love us.